Accepting the negativity and positivity of a person

Often it happens to us that we fail to accept the person because of some negativity associated with that person. For e.g. you had a good relation with person. You found many good qualities in that person and later one day may be you had a quarrel or you saw he or she has a negative quality. In order to be away from that negative quality you shun the person or try to avoid the person.

Have we noticed one interesting thing of this particular behavior? In order to get away from one negativity we are losing the numerous positive aspects of that person which in turn would be very beneficial for both the parties. This happens invariable because we are too obsessed with the negativity and we are unable to get out of its grip in our minds.

Intelligent thing would be to accept the negative and positive aspects with equality. Acknowledge the negative and acknowledge the positive. Selectively keep the negative thing out of your heads and not allow it to affect you. And accept the positives of the person and make use of them for the betterment of the person and others.

This particular approach is not always black and white. Because acceptance or non-acceptance of the situation or person usually is blended with emotions. The impression of a negative emotion clouds the thinking and filters everything that is perceived with a negative feed. The first important thing is to know how to handle the negative emotions which disturb us. Once you get out of the negative emotions then intellectual clarity dawns and ability to accept the negativity of a person also improves.

An ideal state of mind is acceptance of positivity and negativity in the same way and not getting influenced by it. With an unequivocal acceptance the negativity also withers away with time.